An insightful and humorous look at the differences between men and women. Strong emphasis is on the different ways in which men and women resolve issues, with a woman's need to be heard without being "fixed" or given advice, and a man's need to have space to resolve issues in his own way.

Based on her work with couples and on modern research that shows the importance of secure emotional connections with others, the author explains how the loss of this connection plays havoc in marriages. She gives examples from her own private practice of self-defeating ways that couples try to get their needs for closeness met and explains how to replace them with more effective ways. (Check out Dr. Sue Johnson on YouTube.)

Deals with the frustrating dilemma of differences in sexual expectations. Addresses the causes of low libido and gives solutions for the spouse with low-desire as well as ways the higher-desire spouse can encourage their spouse without creating conflict. Explains the importance of the low-desire spouse making sex a priority in their marriage.

The premise here is that actions speak louder than words and that sometimes words can even get in the way of change. Instead of words, Loving Actions become the primary tool for problem solving and relationship enrichment. (For a more in-depth look at the actions, check out the series of articles under "Promoting Change and Growth " at More Articles)

Written by the country's foremost relationship expert and based on decades of research at his "Love Lab." The author videotaped and studied thousands of couples and discovered that the conventional wisdom of strengthening communication skills is not enough to save a marriage. Instead, he lays out 7 Principles that can.

AN ALTERNATIVE TO MARRIAGE COUNSELING

This book explains why boundaries in marriage are absolutely necessary and how to practice setting boundaries with your spouse. Most importantly, the authors show how having boundaries in your marriage is the most loving thing that you can do for yourself and your spouse. (For a brief synopsis, see Articles under "Promoting Change and Growth")


Describes the aftereffects of an affair on both the survivor and the perpetrator, and lays out a plan for recovery including healing of the pain and the rebuilding of trust. Normalizes the anguish and confusion the betrayed experiences as well as recognizing the complex emotions of the betrayer.

Examines the different ways that people experience love including words of affirmation and appreciation, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts, and acts of touch and physical affection. Emphasizes the importance of giving love to another in their own language instead of our own.

This book is written for the spouse who is married to someone who is not interested in working on their marriage or whose foot may already be out the door. It debunks the myth that it takes two to save a marriage and outlines seven steps on how to do it.

A look at how troubled marriages with a spouse with serious problems were able to be healed. Includes marriages where a spouse is irresponsible, a workaholic, controlling, verbally, physically or sexually abusive, unfaithful, addicted to alcohol or drugs, uncommunicative or depressed.

Explains the primary needs of both men and women with women's needs for affection, conversation, honesty and trust, financial support, and family commitment, and men's needs for admiration and appreciation, sexual fulfillment, an attractive spouse, companionship, and domestic order and peace.

Explains how men and women's deepest needs for love are fulfilled differently, with a woman needing her husband's total love and devotion and a man needing the unconditional respect of his wife. Shows how the misunderstanding and neglect of these fundamental needs can be the basis for most marital conflict. 

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The author shares her story of almost losing her marriage through marriage counseling and how she then turned it around by herself. After giving up on counseling, she spoke to happily married women and discovered the truth about relationships and the power that women have to create the kind of marriage they've always wanted. 

A compassionate look at the narcissist you may be living with. Explains why the narcissist is the way he is and how unknowingly, you may be enabling him. Teaches readers how to recognize their own triggers and how to respond to the narcissist in more effective and compassionate ways.